I know a guy who is overcome with anxiety if he doesn’t flip a light switch three times before he leaves a room. He thinks forgetting to do so will cause another mass shooting. That is wild to me.
My thought: “Thank God I don’t have any mental issues like that.” To ensure I remained sane, I knocked on the coffee table three times before the thought was finished. “Holy shit. I have OCD, and it’s learned.”
Like a ghost vibration – You check your phone multiple times throughout the night because you think you feel something jingling around in your pocket. That’s not normal, but it’s accepted as commonplace.
If I was to get up and open the front door three time, and there was no one there to let in, you’d think I was a nutcase.
Some of these habits and deep seated thought processes are developed through rules and traditions we grew up with. It is wild to think about how many seemingly obvious changes are met with such resistance because “that’s the way we’ve always done things.”
Someone suggested that we should not light people on fire and that was met with stark resistance.
That used to be the fave way of executing people, and some brave Puritan went in front of a congregation to make his controversial point:
Puritan Farmer: I don’t think it is very nice to light people on fire, especially in front of our children.
Puritan Wench: Coward! My son will see what happens to the wicked, and you will not take that away from me! But I will continue to fight and prevent his exposure to swear words and breasts!
Puritan Executioner: Sir I am a people lighter, and my father ignited flesh before me. Do you aim to attack my lineage? You are encroaching upon my ability to teach my son a craft as old as man!
If you directly attack someone’s longstanding belief on the basis of right v. wrong, don’t be surprised if they respond by calling you a pussy. “Attack my convictions and I will attack your character.”
Try to give alternate reasoning – Children are developing asthma because they’re breathing in people dust. Ms. Smith’s rutabagas are covered in ash, and the farmer’s market is never certain what public hours are for the city square because public executions happen so inconsistently.
We develop narratives, and preconceptions without questioning them. If you understand these thoughts could potentially be faulty, it should open you up to hearing a difference in opinion.
Do I have to buy a diamond to profess my devotion? Love isn’t real unless an African child loses a limb?
Can we agree the seventh inning stretch is stupid?
I have to tell my future child that Santa is real because everyone else is telling their kids Santa is real, and if my kid is the asshole that tells the other kids that Santa isn’t real then I become the asshole parent.
Some of these traditions are perpetuated because you just don’t want your kid to be the asshole student…. Some of it is perpetuated because you don’t want to be the parent that rocks the boat.
Stop obsessing over traditions and rules. Think critically. If cuss words upset you more than human suffering, that seems kinda silly. Don’t live in societal confines that won’t allow you to eat eggs for dinner.
We could solve a lot of our problems if we collectively questioned why we’re doing what we’re doing.